Behind the scenes » Raccoon Society-- Ask Mat--- ROUND 8

Tomo answering some questions

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Thank you to Tomo for being my first guest. He has such a personal connection with his fans that I knew he’d be a perfect fit. Look for 30 Seconds to Mars' epic new album This is War out this fall.

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http://fuseblog.typepad.com/kill_hannah/2009/09/index.html 28.9.09

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2) from AMANDA:

???? For Tomo:

I have a problem that I’ve been dealing with all my life. It really upsets me to think about it. I have a younger brother who is 17. I’m 19. He hates me. We can’t be in the same room without him saying something bad about me. I can’t figure out why he does this because I always try to be nice to him. He’s a HUge jock who loves to go out and party. I’m more of a stay inside read a book kinda girl. I’m really afraid that when he goes away to college next year that I will never be able to connect with him. I feel if I don’t change our relationship now it will be this way forever. I don’t wanna lose my only brother but what else can I do? Help please I could really use your insight.

TOMO: This really can be a tough one. I have a younger brother and an older sister and even though we all get along pretty well, we definitely had to LEARN how to do that! Your brother will always be your brother and while right now it seems like you guys couldn't be more different, as you get older you will see that you probably aren't that different at all. You are both going through lots of changes and he is getting ready to be free and on his own for the first time in his life. He will miss you more than he even realizes when he's gone! He may never admit it to you but I assure you he will. ;) You just keep on being nice and loving to your big bro and he'll come around. In the end, you two have eachother and neither you nor he can do anything about that!



4) From SOMEBODYTOLOVE

???? Tomo:

Can you tell me why guys never really wanna see a movie when they invite me over to watch one?

I mean, i am human too so i can use a cuddle once in a while, so i don’t mind sitting next to each other curled up on a couch, you get the image. But i also really like to see the ending of a movie sometimes instead of getting hands/lips on places i don’t want them. And when i push away or say “no” mostly the evening is ruined and i can either leave or watch the movie in total silence. …Or they think it's my period so i do want more next time.. what?!

How do i say ”no” without being rude and still have a fun evening. Is it really true a girl can't have guy friends without anything else to happen? By now i'm getting afraid to hang out with guys because i don’t wanna give them a wrong idea. So i just won’t go anyway because i know it's gonna be awkward. Do i have to keep trying? it makes me angry.

(ps: Sorry for any spelling/grammar mistakes. English isn’t my first language)

TOMO: This one is simple... You be yourself and you do what you want. If you say no, then that means no PERIOD! You should absolutely be able to be friends with a guy without any kind of pre-conceived notion of what "might" happen. If you want to hang out with someone and just watch a movie then that is your right, and if that person makes you feel bad for not wanting to do anything else, then maybe that person isn't someone who is worthy of your friendship. You should never allow yourself to feel guilty for following your own instinct, so don't hang out with people that make you feel that way. You should be having fun, and living your young life learning about how to communicate with people and how to become an awesome version of YOU!

"In life, often the more difficult decision is also the right one" JL


6) from DEB LOVES TOMO

????Tomo: i'm seventeen. I live in Italy (more precisely, in Rome). I would like to ask you some questions.

- What do you feel when you play the violin?

- How long have you been playing the flute?

- Would you like to come to Rome to perform?

Lastly, -When was the first time you got drunk?

(i would be honored if you answer to my last question. it's a bit personal.)

TOMO: To the last question, I was probably very young the first time I got drunk. My parents worked constantly and there was always some kind of liquor around the house, and with mischevious kids alone at home all day its just a matter of time before we got ourselves into trouble! I never really felt too bad about it though because now that I'm older I realize that its not a big deal, kids are curious and want to push the envelope of what they know they arent' supposed to do. Just always remember to be smart and responsible and safe, and NEVER EVER do something because everyone else is doing it! Be an individual and only do what makes YOU feel good and right inside... ;)



8) from ASHLEY

???????TOMO:

What was the first musical instrument you ever picked up, and how did you know this was what you wanted to do for the rest of your life?

I seem to be falling more in love with music every day... the way every note flows into the next so flawlessly, the way completely different instruments can intertwine to create one perfect sound, almost like a machine... sometimes I wonder if I missed my chance. If maybe, I missed some kind of message, telling me that music should have been my life's work.

I don't know... I guess it's never too late...

Tomo: IT IS NEVER TOO LATE FOR ANYTHING AT ALL! If music speaks to you like that then maybe you should pursue it, even if only to find out that it ISN"T the right path for you. Sometimes you have to fail in order to realize something and that is an amazing lesson. In 30STM we cherish our failures because we learn so much from them, they teach us how to get back on path and that is so important. Billy Joe from Green Day said something really amazing once, he said "our success is nothing more than the sum of all our failures", this is so true! If you never try, then you'll never know so I suppose the question is this, are you ready to make a choice and devote your life to it?

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